Break Up Blues

Posted on March 12th, 2008 in Break Ups

Hi all

Today’s subject - the Breakup Blues

As you know I have alot of male friends. This can be a blessing and a curse. My male friends are awesome at giving advice about their gender. If I just want to know what one of my client’s boyfriends are thinking or what their actions mean I just dial up one of my male confidantes and get the scoop.

The danger of having male friends though is when they are going through a break up. Friendship and comforting can easily become more. It’s a fine line that you have to walk in this situation. His vulnerability can trigger every nurturing instinct that you have. Believe me I have been there. And you can end up being the rebound girl before he either moves on or goes back to the one who made him eat his heart out to begin with.

Many of your write to me asking if you should comfort a man that you are interested in. The answer, unfortunately, is not unless you are looking for a short term relationship or worse yet a one night stand. Be his friend, comfort him but do so as if he was a child. He may not be in the right state to make good decisions. If you choose to comfort him do so knowing that it is your responsibility to pull back and keep things on a platonic level. I don’t care how many times he tells you how great you are or how he never noticed how wonderful you are. You don’t want to be the one who helps him through this time of his life. You want to be the one who helps him into the next better part. Any intimacy that you two have during this period could end up hurting you once he gets out of this fragile state.

Sincerely,

Caterina Christakos - founder of seductiondiva.com - The Seduction Guide for Women

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