1) The hair twist is classic. Play with your hair just a bit, twirling it around your finger as you talk to him. His mind will go to how soft it looks and he will begin to wonder if it feels as soft as it looks.

2) The eye flirt - yes, the look made famous by old Hollywood movies still works. You catch his eye from across the room, look away and then look back. This is a great one for catching the attention of someone that you are interested in but have not spoken to yet.

3) Jewelry flirtation techniques - Wear a long dangly necklace that falls at cleavage level. Play with it while you chat with him. Let it dangle from your fingertips before letting it fall gently then play with it again a few seconds later.

4) The lip lick can be used with someone that you are flirting with but haven’t spoken to or someone you are enjoying a meal with. This is particularly effective if you are eating something frothy like a cappucinno. Allow just a dab of the foam to linger on your bottom lip for a second and then use your tongue to whip it away.

Body language is one of your most powerful tools. It allows you to tell him that you are interested without going out on a limb and proclaiming your feelings too soon.

Check back again tommorow for even more flirting tips and techniques.

Caterina - author of the Seduction Game for Women

Next step, find magazines that feature real women, like Ms Magazine, or Oprah’s magazine. Find women with your body type and see what they are wearing that looks good and fits your style.

Then go to the mall and get a free makeover at your favorite cosmetics counter. Ask them questions about what colors look good with your skin tone. This free color analysis will be extremely helpful when picking out your clothing as well. I usually buy at least a lipstick to compensate them for their time and to make sure that I have a color that will compliment the outfit that I eventually purchase. You will also need it for those mid night touch ups througout your date.

Finally hit the sales racks in your favorite stores or find the outlets in your area. In Orlando, we have so many outlet stores that you practically can’t go ten miles without hitting one. Find your favorite designers and styles at a discount.

Also make sure that you have the proper underwear to go with it. Even the hottest designs won’t look good if your chest is hanging around your waist. Buy undergarments that hold you in place and that also make you feel sexy. He may never get to see them but you will know and that secret smile on your face will have his blood heating up, without his ever knowing why.

See looking good can be easy and completely affordable with just a bit of planning.

Well if you have explained to him that you don’t think it will work out but he still won’t leave you alone, turn the tables on him.

1) Call him repeatedly throughout the day.

2) Text him constantly with inane questions.

3) Email he with the most obnoxious chain letters you can find.

4) Yammer on constantly about every disgusting body ailment you have ever had.

5) Buy How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days or Less for more ideas

So basically do the opposite of what I tell you to do to get and keep a man, in my book. There is nothing that kills a romance like too much of a good thing.

1) Have a picnic on your living room floor with blankets and candles and the pre-requisite basket.

2) Go to movie night in the park if your community has one. Here in Winter Park, they have movies in the Park at least once a month.

3) Set up your bed like a massage table. Light some candles and pop out your favorite massage oil. You can pretend that you are away on vacation at an exotic spa and take turns being the masseauss

4) Drive out to the nearest small town and play tourist for the day. Eat at the local diner and soak up some local culture.

5) Simply break out your finest silverwear and set your table like they do in your favorite expensive restaurant. Light candles and play some romantic music. If you don’t have time to cook, order Italian food from a lower end restaurant but serve it on your fancy plates. It will turn your normal meal time into something special.

1) Don’t call him unless he calls you first.

2) Keep texts to a minimum.

3) Don’t accept a last minute date.

You need to show him that you have a life outside of your relationship for his sake and yours. Show him love and appreciate while you are with him and let him wonder at all of your other facets when you are apart.

Caterina Christakos - author of the Seduction Game for Women

1) He makes excuses to come and talk to you.

2) He agrees to partipate in activities that most men run from just to be with you. ( Ex. Ballet, Opera, Pottery class)

3) He actually calls when he says he is going to.

4) He turns down hanging out with his friends to be with you.

5) He has actually told his friends and family about you.

There are also some more subtle signs that he is in to you but they are not as easy to spot like:

1) His lower lips swells when he is near you.

2) His pupils get wider.

3) There may be a slight flare to his nostrils.

4) There is a color change to his skin tone. Look for a slight flush over his cheek bones and in the neck area.

5) He uses open body language.

6) He finds excuses to touch you. Ex. He touches your arm and guides you when you walk.

Want more ways to tell if he really likes you? Read the Seduction Game for Women now.

Remember the date must haves in our last blog? There was a reason for those tic tacs. Before Godzilla breath moves in again, pull back and sweetly say, ” Honey I can’t wait to kiss you. Would you mind if I freshen up a bit?” Then pull out the tic tacs and pop one yourself before handing him a couple. Don’t ask if he wants one. Just hand him one or two. Unless he has absolutely no manners he will accept them and you two can get to the business of heart pounding kisses.

Enjoy!

Caterina Christakos - author of the Seduction Game for Women. Read more here

Here is a list of must haves for your big night out:

1) A medium sized purse big enough to carry a few essentials.

2) The lipstick, and lip liner that you originally applied. Yes, touch ups are essential especially if you are eating out.

3) Tic tacs or your choice of breath freshener. This one isn’t just for you. You may want to graciously offer one as you pop a tic tac to cancel your own after dinner breath.

4) Concealer, if you are suffering from that first date zit.

5) A cell phone, just in case he doesn’t turn out to be Mr. Wonderful.

6) At least $20, in case you need cab fare.

7) A pad or tampo, just in case.

A small sample of your favorite perfume. Use this sparingly.

9) An index card with topics of conversation. Just in case you get to a longer than pleasant lull in the conversation, you can excuse yourself to go to the restroom and have a few pre-determined safe topics to peruse so that you can get the date back on the right track.

Remember these essentials and you will elimate nervousness and mishaps on first dates and all of your other dates.

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And let’s say that he has wandered to more exciting pastures. Is there a way to get him back? Absolutely.

There also happens to be many ways to make sure that he never wants to return, which is what most women do out of desperation.

Here is a list of absolute don’ts after a breakup:

1) Don’t call him a million times a day.

2) Don’t write him long love letters detailing your never ending devotion.

3) Don’t try to make him feel guilty.

4) Don’t bad mouth him to his friends and yours.

5) Don’t date his best friend.

6) Don’t go sobbing to your family about him.

These are all signs of desperation and no man wants to be with a desperate woman.

Here are some things that you can do to feel better about yourself and have him back and panting after you:

1) Go out with your friends.

2) Leave your cell phone at home or off.

3) Don’t check your email for a couple of days ( and yes I mean texts too).

4) Revive those interests that made you interesting in the first place.

5) And finally, Read this book. It is one of the best break up advice, how to get him back books on the market today.

Break ups are rough but they don’t have to be permanent.

Sincerely,

Caterina - author of the Seduction Game for Women

I hate to tell you this but you are dating a “chick.”

And it may not be his fault. For decades we have complained that we want men to be more sensitive. And now, unfortunately, we have gotten our wish.

Men have taken this desire a bit too much to heart. They haven’t understood that we want them to be strong and manly yet able to have a meaningful conversation.

Telivision ads and the beauty industry have not helped. Now we not only have them going to the gym but buffing, scrubbing and moisturizing as much as we do. Have you seen the number of men with highlights in their hair? My roots show more often than my male friends these days.

I guess the question is,” Can a real man be sensitive without losing that inherintly masculine part of himself that draws us to the opposite sex in the first place or should we all just move to Alaska where not all of them have access to Sex in the City?”